Questions that piss me off

People piss me off. There, I said it. I really hate the nosy and endless questions that people ask me about being a single parent. I don’t question you about your life, so how about not questioning me about mine? Person I haven’t seen in 3 years, do you really think it’s appropriate to ask me questions about my situation through a facebook message? No. It is not. Let me ask you some questions about your personal life/personal struggles and see how you feel.

What kind of questions do people ask me? Okay, sure here we go.

You must make a ton on money off the baby bonus, eh? Okay, first of all, it’s called Child Tax Benefit and second of all you don’t ‘make’ money from it. The money is allocated to families through the government so that families can subsidize the cost of raising a child/children. And it’s not based on being a single parent. It’s based on your income. I make a pretty decent living; therefore my child tax benefit is quite minimal. The program is designed to help low-income families.  Oh, and let me grill you on your finances now? Yeah, I’m not that rude.

So, what’s the deal with her father? Um yeah.. Like I really am going to try to summarize that in the grocery store to fulfill your need to know my business. It didn’t work out between us. It’s that simple and that complicated. If you’d like to know more about why it didn’t work then maybe you should ask him. Oh, you don’t know him? Then maybe you don’t know me that well either and should keep your mouth shut.

Does her dad pay child support?  Let me ask you this; how much debt are you in? Do you have any investments?  How much money do you make at your job? How much money does your husband make at his job? What does your car payment cost every month? Are you still paying on student loans? How many credit cards do you have? See how those questions are super inappropriate? Yeah, so is asking about child support.

Do you want to date? Yes, but a better question is: do I have time? No, no I do not. My daughter is only 8 months old and I want to spend as much time with her as possible. Dating is hard regardless but when you add a child to the mix it becomes even more challenging. My time is precious and I am not going to waste it with just anyone.

What is on your daughter’s birth certificate?  Her name and her date of birth. You don’t need to know anything else. When Charlotte is old enough to carry it herself, ask her to show you.

Do you feel bad that your daughter doesn’t have a normal family? Okay, define normal for me please? Oh and while you are busy trying to come up with an answer to that, let me give you an education about families. There are just as many single parent families, blended families, unmarried parent families and same-sex parent families as there are traditional families. So I am pretty sure that my family is as normal as yours. It’s not 1963 people!

Do you want more kids? I love children, which is why I have one. If I am lucky enough to be given more, then I will definitely take them.  But that being said, I don’t plan on having any more children as a single parent. I don’t know what life is going to bring but being a single mom is tough and if I do have more children, I hope my situation is different. But isn’t that obvious?

I know that some people ask these questions because they are my family or friends and are just generally wondering. But some people ask because they are nosy assholes that don’t have any tact. I know I don’t have a traditional family, and for some people, that sparks an interest. I get it, okay? But before you grill me with questions, use your inner filter please.

K, thanks!

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3 thoughts on “Questions that piss me off

  1. God, people are such idiots sometimes, right? I especially like, “Do you feel bad that your daughter doesn’t have a normal family?” Like, seriously, what kind of question is that, and who are you to define “normal” is? Does the kid have people who love her and take care of her? BOOM. THAT’S A FAMILY. RAWR.

    For the record, too, married parents get outrageous questions too. -_- I had this one super religious coworker ask me if we were going to get the little missy baptised. When I said no, because we’re atheists, he started in on a big rant about how if MY BABY WERE TO DIE she would go to HELL. I was completely flabbergasted and didn’t talk to him again for months.

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    1. People are idiots! No one has ever asked me religious questions and if they do, I plan on shutting that shit down right away. It’s called ‘none of your business.’ Seriously. People are ignorant and need to STFU. End rant, lol.

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    2. Hi Tracey….I am a friend of Miss Charlotte. I like to think that she sees me as Auntie Nancy. Because we have people in common, I want to tell you something….being as I am thought to be one of those super religious people 🙂 Here is a quote you may use with MY permission “I have it on excellent authority from a person who has taught Religious Education to priests, that people who die are not asked to show their certificates at the door!!!! God so loves us all that everyone is welcomed home.” You bet that the super religious BIASED person….will not have a credible response. God does not have favourites. You keep loving your child, so the little missy knows and shows love to all 🙂 Love from her new Auntie NAncy 🙂

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