Learning to love Valentine’s Day

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Valentine’s Day has always been one of my least favorite holidays. I think it’s because a lot of the time, I have been single on Valentine’s Day. And there is something that really sucks about being single on the most romantic and lovey-dovey day of the year. Keep on reading!

Overpriced strollers and shopping local

A few months ago, when I first started blogging, I made a post called ‘Overpriced Strollers are Bullshit.” I still stand by that because I really do think overpriced strollers are well, bullshit. I can’t believe manufacturers and companies get away with charging $700 or more for a stroller. Nevertheless, I understand now why people buy them. If you use your stroller frequently or live in the city and are on buses a lot or have 2 or more children in a stroller, I understand the investment. I use my stroller 2-3 times a month so I could never justify paying that amount. But I appreciate why some people do.  I still think the price point is bullshit but I don’t actually think it’s bullshit that people want or need a good stroller.

My girlfriend recently gave birth to her second baby! He is so cute and squishy and adorable. She did a lot of research about what type of stroller she wanted and decided to go with the Baby Jogger City Select. After taxes, this bad boy cost her over $750! I know that is a lot of money but she has a two-year old and a newborn and will likely be using the stroller A LOT over the next 3-4 years. It made sense to invest in quality, and to also invest in a stroller that has an optional attachment seat that turns it into a double stroller.

When considering her purchase, she thought long and hard about what business she wanted to give her hard-earned money to. She decided to shop local and bought from a small retailer in HRM (Halifax Regional Municipality). This was so awesome to see! I am a huge supporter of shopping local and patronizing small businesses instead of big box stores. A $750 sale is a HUGE DEAL for a small business and a few of those a week would definitely add up. My friend was thrilled with her purchase and felt good about giving her business to a local speciality shop.

Fast forward to about four weeks later. Baby Jogger puts out a manufacturers promotion. The promotion said “Buy a Baby Jogger City Select and get the 2nd seat (which is the attachment to turn the stroller into a double) for free.” The attachment has a value of $250, which is a lot of money.

Naturally, my friend was let down. She had JUST bought the stroller not even a full month ago. She contacted the business to see if they could let her in on the promotion and they told her that her stroller didn’t qualify as it had a different SKU/Barcode on the box because of the color she bought . This didn’t sit well with my friend. The Baby Jogger City Select is a very specific stroller, how many barcodes could there possibly be? So she called the manufacturer and explained the situation. The manufacturer told her that the business owner was being dishonest and that the barcode on the colour she bought was eligible for the promotion. The manufacturer also explained that this was a promotion through the manufacturer, and would not cost the business anything. Just a bit of time and paperwork to get reimbursed.

At this point my friend was annoyed. She called back to the place of business and told them that Baby Jogger said that they should be able to give her the free seat with no issues/problems. The owner then (again) said that they were unable to because of the color difference and that they normally would within a reasonable time frame but couldn’t because of the difference in color/incorrect barcode. My friend then let them know that was not the case according to the manufacturer and that the manufacturer confirmed that the barcode was eligible for the rebate. Once they heard this they suddenly started to say that they couldn’t price match after a 14 day period. Yet their receipt does not say that anywhere. In fact, their receipt says that have a return policy that’s fair and logical. But when it came time to own up and do the right thing, they took a cop-out and said 14 days, even though that has never been stated anywhere before.

My friend ended up calling a few big box outlets to see what they would do in this case, and they all said they would make an exception. This is a woman on maternity leave with a brand new baby at home. I can’t imagine owning a business and not wanting to help a customer in that type of situation. Especially when the situation could have easily been fixed and would have cost the retailer nothing. Not one penny.

Before anyone reads this and thinks I am being incredibly biased, I want to clarify on a few things. I love shopping local. In fact, I don’t mind spending a few extra dollars to pump money into my local economy. But the one thing I HATE about shopping local, is that bullshit like this can happen and you have no higher-ups to go to. Local retailers are their own companies, therefore their own bosses. And that’s often to their advantage. I would say that 98% of small locally owned businesses go above and beyond for their customers. I eat breakfast at a small café nearly every weekend and I can tell you with 100% certainty that the business owners would do anything to keep their customers happy. Because your customers are your bread and butter.

But when customers are treated unfairly and with disrespect, it upsets me. Because my friend could have spent her money anywhere at all, and chose to give it to a small business. And instead of being thanked for it, she is essentially being punished because the business doesn’t want to make an exception. An exception that would cost them nothing other than a bit of time.  I can get over the fact that they aren’t willing to help her, but what I find particularly unnerving is the dishonesty, the lies and the inconsistency.

So friends, I ask you this. Research return policies and price matching policies thoroughly before you make a big purchase at a small business. I don’t want to discourage people from shopping local, because that’s not what this is about. I want you to continue to shop local and put money back into the economy of where you live. But I do ask you to be cautious, because you could end up losing out. Check Facebook reviews, talk to friends and go to the store a few times and see what the customer service is like before you make a purchase. If you determine that it’s a good fit then definitely shop local. But buyer beware; there are some small businesses who do not put their customers first.

With that being said, carry on with your overpriced strollers; I’ll be putting that $750 towards chocolate and wine!

I’m grateful to be a single mom

Being a single mom was never a part of my plan. I had always envisioned getting married and buying a home and then making a family with my future husband. However, life threw me a curveball and my plans were drastically changed when my daughter was born and I became a single mother.

At first I was extremely overwhelmed. I had no idea what to expect with having a newborn and doing it on my own was tough. My parents were (and still are) an amazing support but there was a part of me that wished that I could be experiencing all of the things I felt with someone whom I loved and planned on spending the rest of my life with. There were moments when I was upset that I didn’t get to have things that way that I wanted them, but I chose to get over that. Because life unfolded for me in the exact way it was supposed to and I’ve come to realize that I am grateful to be a single mom.

Before I became a single mom I appreciated my family and friends. I knew I was extremely lucky and that having them in my life was a huge blessing. But when you really need people to stand by your side, you find out pretty quickly who matters the most to you.

Right away, I learned to appreciate my parents in a whole new way. They allowed me and my newborn baby to move back in with them, no questions asked. The welcomed me home with open arms and helped me in so many ways. I always have emotional and financial support from them and they are only too happy to babysit when I go to work or want to spend time with friends on the weekend. I get more support from my parents than some people get from their spouse. I can never thank them enough for all they have done and continue to do for me and my daughter.

My sisters supported me immensely, too. Even though we all live in different cities and provinces, they have always been there to encourage me, support me and lift me up. They are two of the most amazing women I know and I am thankful to have them in my life.

My extended family has been nothing short of amazing. My aunts and uncles and cousins have loved Charlotte from the moment they met her and have continued to be a wonderful and loving presence in her life. That in itself makes my heart so happy. But beyond that, my older cousin helped me land not one, but two jobs. She took me under her wing and made sure that employment opportunities fell into place for me. I can never repay the kindness that both her and her coworker/boss showed to me. It is because of these two fantastic ladies that I have been able to save for a house and land on my feet. There are no words for that. I will forever have a heart full of gratitude for both of them.

And my friends. My sweet, sweet friends. You all know who you are. You are the ones who were there for me from day one. I may not see you as much as I would like but please know that I love you and respect you and miss you more than words can say. Thank you for always being there for me and for helping me navigate my way through this crazy and fun adventure! I know that we don’t get to spend as much time together as we would like, but please know that there will be a day when I will get to see you more often and I promise that I will be treating you to dinner and lots and lots of wine!

While most people would not expect me to say this, I do have to thank my daughter’s father. He gave me the greatest gift ever and without him, I would not have my sweet baby girl. She is my Charlotte because of who she is. And without him, she would not be the perfect little angel that I love with all of my heart. And I’m lucky to say that Charlotte’s grandmother on her dad’s side is a special lady whom we are both incredibly lucky and thankful to have in our lives.

And above all, I am beyond grateful for my sweet daughter. She changed my life from the moment I knew. I knew that I wanted to do more and be better. She helped me get all of my priorities figured out and teaches me new things about myself every day. It is because of her that I have dreamed bigger, loved deeper and imagined more than I ever thought possible. She makes me want to be the best possible person I can be. She has taught me not only how to set goals, but also, how to achieve them. She is the best part of me and the person whom completes my heart.

So you see, being a single mom has changed my life in ways I can’t imagine. It’s helped me figure out my priorities. It’s helped me realize whom and what is important in my life, and it’s opened my eyes to a whole new world. I’ve come to realize that there is no such thing as a perfect family. All that matters is that you love each other and treat each other well. It’s that simple. Your family is the group of people whom you hold closest to your heart. You don’t need to be related by blood to call them family. It’s the people who showed up and stayed by your side when you needed them most. That’s what true family is.

I’m grateful to be a single mom. It’s been an absolute whirlwind of an adventure over these past fourteen month and it’s helped me prove to myself that I am strong and determined and can do anything I set my mind and heart on. Being a single mom is the hardest and best job I have ever had. It has brought so many people into my life and has opened so many doors for me. THIS is the life I was meant to live. It may not be perfect, but it’s perfect for me. I am so truly blessed.

She’s just NOT that into you

When you become a new mother it can feel somewhat isolating. Your life gets turned completely upside down and your world starts to revolve around this tiny little person who eats, poops and cries a good chunk of the day. You want to socialize with people, but the evenings are tough because you are trying to establish a bedtime routine and during the day, most of your friends are at work.

So, you start looking for mommy friends. You cruise Facebook and join mommy groups who have regular play dates. It only takes a while and suddenly you are invited on your first mommy date!

This is a big deal. So many things are crucial. You want to make sure you’re on time and that you don’t come off too nervous or too eager. Date day comes and goes. And you think it went really well. You made sure that you were on time and you remembered everyone’s name and could even pronounce those baby names that you’ve never even heard before. But then you don’t hear anything for a day. And then it turns into two days, and then a week and then several weeks and then a month. What did you do wrong?

I don’t know specifically what you did or didn’t do during your play date, but I can guarantee that the following things will almost 100% ensure that another mom won’t want to spend time with you again:

Overdressing. By overdressing I don’t mean that you wore too many layers. No, what I mean is that you dressed up like you were going to a job interview. Most moms were probably sporting yoga pants, ponytails and sneakers. If you showed up to a park with flawless makeup, manicured nails and a power suit and heels, then there’s a good chance that the other mommies thought you were ridiculous and that you didn’t actually WANT to be in a park. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to look nice, but you need to dress the part. Save your heels for date night or in the bedroom!

Out-doing everyone. Did your baby crawl at five months? That’s fantastic. Did they sleep through the night at two weeks? You’re one lucky lady. Do they take two really long naps every day? I’m jealous. But seriously, don’t brag about this stuff. Especially if another mom is pouring her heart out and talking about her struggles and how tired she is because her baby only sleeps for three uninterrupted hours at a time.  Listen to her and let her know that it will eventually get better. Do not try and out-do her and let her know how awesome your child is. Because she’ll start to wonder what she is doing wrong, and the truth is; she isn’t doing anything wrong. No two babies are alike.

Put your phone away!!! Nothing annoys me more than going to dinner with a friend and having them continuously check their phone and answer texts while I am talking to them. It’s rude and shows a lack of interest. When you’re on a play date, it’s about spending time with other moms and talking to them and getting to know them. You can’t do that if you’re looking at your phone every 3-4 minutes for Facebook updates. Seriously, put your phone away for an hour.  You and Facebook will both survive.

Terrorizing moms to be. If there happens to be a mommy-to-be at the play date with her cute pregnant belly, do not terrorize her with labor horror stories. Yeah, labor sucks. It’s not exactly a walk in the park but the end result is; you get to meet the love of your life. A first time expecting mom does not want to hear that you were in labor for 56 hours and needed 42 stitches and spent 8 days in the hospital. GTFO here with that. Tell her she’ll do amazing and that they have great drugs for pain.

Hot topics. There are some topics that you just never bring up with other moms. Do not, under any circumstances, offer your opinions on a hot topic during your first mommy date. You will, without a doubt, hurt someone’s feeling. It doesn’t matter if you do or don’t agree with co-sleeping, vaccinations, extended rear-facing, breastfeeding or whatever else the topic may be. Stay neutral. Everyone is doing their best to raise their children in a way that works for them.  Which brings me to my next topic.

Don’t be a sanctimommy! If you see someone feeding their child with a bottle and you’re a huge breastfeeding advocate, don’t lecture them on the benefits of breastfeeding. I’m sure they know. And don’t act as if your way of doing things is the only way of doing things, because it’s not. There are tons of different parenting styles and every child is unique and different. If you start with that holier-than-thou shit you can bet your freshly manicured nails that those mommies will never want to see you or your power suit again.

If she’s not calling you, not returning your texts or not answering your Facebook messages, then there is a reason. Something went wrong and she’s just not that into you. It might be her or maybe it’s you. Whatever it is, it’s okay. You’re a new mom. You’re learning and growing. And guess what? So am I. And I might even be guilty of a few of these play dates faux pas. No need to panic. Have a glass (or bottle) of wine and consider it a lesson learned for next time!

Dear Student Moms

Dear Student Moms,

In the world of Stay At Home Moms and Working Moms you are often forgotten about. You somehow get lost in the shuffle and people forget just how hard working and amazing you really are.

First of all, I want to tell you that I am really proud of you. What you are doing is not easy and it comes with a lot of sacrifices that you probably had to make along the way. But, those sacrifices are worth it. It may mean short term difficulties, but you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of success.

Student moms have the most difficult schedules I have ever seen. How do you ladies do it? You are all superstars that deserve a trophy of achievement! You go to school all day, come home and spend as much time as you can with your children and then once they are in bed you study for tests, write papers, work on assignments and complete research for projects. I am sure that you get less than eight hours of sleep per night but you never complain about it because you are grateful for the opportunity you have.

As if all of that isn’t hard enough, a lot of you work part-time jobs, too. You already worked all week by going to school and taking care of children and doing homework in the evening. I know how exhausting it can be to work all week and have very little ‘me-time’ in the evenings. Yet despite that, you work part-time on the weekends or wherever else you can squeeze in a shift. How do you do that? Where do you find the time and energy? You are clearly a wizard in time management and could definitely give me a lesson in it.

I know that some of you work part-time because it is financially necessary, and I know that has to be tough. A lot of you are trying to manage a household, pay tuition, pay daycare costs and still have enough left over to be able to treat your kids now and then. And some of you are doing it completely on your own, as single mothers. You are truly the most amazing women I have ever met. Thank you for being such a wonderful example and showing single moms everywhere that you can create a better life for yourself.

Being a student mom can sometimes mean that you do and go without. It might mean you can’t afford to get your hair cut at a salon, or it might mean that you can’t go on summer vacations with your kids. It might mean you haven’t bought yourself new clothes in six months or maybe it means that you have to budget extremely carefully when it comes to groceries. Whatever the case may be, please know that these sacrifices are worth it. You are paving the road to your future and success and education go hand in hand. Please know that it won’t always be this hard and you won’t always have to make this many sacrifices.

I am sure there are days or weeks where you want to give up. I am sure you get overwhelmed, tired and frustrated by your workload and tight budget. But in those times, remember this. You are setting an amazing example for your children. You are teaching them that they can do anything they set their minds and hearts on and that hard work is tough, but it also comes with really big rewards. You are teaching your children that education is the key to success and that education can take you places that you only ever dreamed of.

Student Moms, hang in there. Please know that I am so extremely proud of you and I truly hope you are equally as proud of yourselves. What you are doing is extraordinary and is an achievement that you will get to carry with you for the rest of your life. Go confidently in the direction of your dreams, live the life you’ve always imagined!

With all of my love and respect,

Katie

Dear Working Moms

Dear Working Moms,

I am one of you. I am one of the moms who gets up every day and then gets ready for work and has to kiss her baby goodbye as someone else cares for her. I know how much it can suck at times and I know there are days where you would give anything to stay home and play with your kids.

I know that you have days where you really start to question yourself and wonder ‘am I doing the right thing?’  I also know that there are days when after you pay your daycare bills and working expenses, you wonder if you are even getting ahead. And I know there are days when you look into your child’s face as you leave for work, and wish like crazy that it could somehow be different.

I am a working mom who works out of necessity. As a single mom, my income is the only income that my daughter and I have to live off of. Without my income, we would have nothing. Not working is not an option for me. There are times when I wish that I could stay home, but I am also proud of the example that I am setting for my daughter by going to work each day.

I know that all working moms work for different reasons. Maybe you’re like me and you’re a single mom who has to work. Maybe being a Stay At Home Mom was too overwhelming for you and you needed to go back to work for your sanity. Maybe you love your job and have worked really hard to get where you’re at and didn’t want to give it up. I get it, I really do. We all have our reasons for going to work, just like Stay At Home Moms have their reasons for staying at home. And I want you to know that whatever your  reason is you don’t have to justify it. Not to me, not to your family or friends and not to society. You are doing what works best for you and your family.

Working moms, I know that it is hectic. After working all day and going to meetings and crunching numbers and answering emails, it’s understandable that you just want to go home and relax. But most of us don’t get this luxury. We have to make supper, take kids to swim lessons and soccer practice, help with homework and do laundry. We try to spend a few hours relaxing after the kids go to bed, but most of the time we are so tired that all we can do is lay on the couch, watch TV and make a mental list of all of the things we didn’t accomplish at work today that need to be done tomorrow.

I also know how tough it can be to have to go to work on only three hours of sleep. But you don’t complain about it. Instead, you go to work, drink your coffee and crunch your numbers and answer emails and problem solve all day long. I know that you wish you could be at home so that at least you could power nap while the kids nap. But you can’t. You wish so badly some days that you could be home with your babies, but you have your reasons for being at work and those reasons are what gets you through the day.

I also know the guilt. The guilt of not being there. The guilt of someone else spending more waking hours with your child than you do. That mommy guilt is huge and can hit at the worst possible times. It can hit you during a meeting, while giving a presentation or speaking with clients/customers. Your child’s sweet little face creeps into your mind and you have to work really hard to think about something else, so that the guilt doesn’t completely overcome you. I get that, Working Mom’s. I understand that guilt completely because I feel it almost every single day.

Here’s the thing about that guilt though; it eventually lessens and even though you still feel it, you can soften the blow by reminding yourself of a few things. You are teaching your child about hard work. You are teaching your child about earning money. And you are setting an amazing example. You are showing your babies that a mom CAN work outside of the home and STILL be a super mom.  You are exhibiting strength, perseverance, dedication, commitment, determination and endurance. These are amazing qualities that your child is learning by seeing – and they are seeing it all in you.

So hang in there, Working Moms. I understand how you feel and I know it can be tough. But you are doing what you need to do for you and your family. It may not always be easy, but it’s always worth it. And that is extraordinary.

Love,

Katie

Dear Stay At Home Moms

Dear Stay At Home Moms,

You are amazing. Has anyone ever told you that? You have one of the most important jobs in the world but at times it can also be one of the most underappreciated jobs in the world. I want you to know that I appreciate you, value you and admire you. Because what you do is so very important.

I am not a stay at home mom. I am a work-away-from-the-home mom. I was a stay at home mom for a brief period, but after my maternity leave was over I went back to work. In some ways, I was sad to go back to work because it meant leaving my baby, but in other ways I was glad because it meant that I got to go back to what I knew, what I was good at, the familiar.

I’m not saying I was a terrible SAHM, because I wasn’t. I did the job to the best of my ability but I found it tough. It was hard managing a house, a baby and trying to make time for myself. This is why I admire you so much, stay at home moms. Because you are able to juggle so many tasks and priorities throughout the day.

When I am at work, I have lots of things to do. But here’s the thing; I don’t have to do them with a toddler in tow. I am able to work independently at my own pace and complete tasks to the best of my ability because I am not busy trying to entertain and occupy a tiny human. My focus is usually very high because I have minimal distractions happening while at work.

When I was a SAHM, it was so much different. Trying to feed a baby, pay bills, cook meals, do laundry and keep the house clean felt nearly impossible. It felt like I was constantly taking one step forward and three steps back. I felt like no matter how hard I tried, I simply could not get ahead. And on top of not getting ahead, there was the constant exhaustion. How do you do it, SAHMs? How do you manage to find the energy to get through each day? You are constantly busy and doing things, it’s like you’re running a marathon all day, every day. I’m not sure where you get the energy, but I know that I am very envious of it.

You’re also some of the most selfless people I have ever met, SAHMs. You are putting your career on hold to raise your children. I know that had to be an incredibly tough decision to make. Maybe some of you are staying at home because you don’t want to miss a moment with your children. Maybe some of you are staying at home because it financially makes more sense – daycare is expensive, especially if you have to send multiple children.  Or maybe you are staying at home because you also work from home. Whatever the case may be, I am sure that it was a decision that was carefully thought out and works best for you and your family.

Stay At Home Moms, you are everything. You are a chef, a maid, a bookkeeper, a nurse, a chauffeur, a handyman, a teacher, a therapist, a hairdresser, a waitress, a referee, a personal assistant and anything else your family may need, want or require.  You are amazing. Absolutely amazing.

I know you probably have days when you are overwhelmed, tired and in desperate need of a break. And I also know that sometimes, no matter how bad you want it, there is no break. It is during those times that I respect you the most. Because even though you are tired and running out of patience, you somehow still manage to keep pulling through. Even on the days when you are sick or have been up all night or are battling a migraine. Those are the days that you deserve all of the credit in the world.

I admire you, SAHMs. You are doing a job that is often undervalued  by society and can be the loneliest job in the world at times (I know, I did it too!).  I want you to know that I respect you. I value you. I think you’re extremely important. And if there was a way for me to pay you, I would. But here’s the thing; even if I could pay you, it would never be enough. Because what you do every day cannot be measured by money or materialistic goods. You are priceless. Never forget that.

All of my love and appreciation,

Katie

Danny Tanner, Sex and the City and Single Parenting

Single parents have been on the rise over the last fifty years. It’s more and more common to meet a single mom or a single dad these days. Because of this, it’s also much more common to see single parents portrayed on TV.

When I became a single mom, I realized that I didn’t know very many single mothers. Most of my friends are married or in long term relationships and most of their parents have been married for thirty plus years. My best source for learning how to be a single parent was through TV.

I realize that these characters are fictional and that their situations were entirely made up to help create a storyline, but I really feel for them and their struggles. They taught me a lot about being a single parent and some of them portrayed the role really well. Here’s who I relate to:

Danny Tanner, Full House – Danny Tanner lost his wife due to a tragic accident, and as a result, was left as a single father with three young daughters to take care of.  Danny turned to his brother-in-law and best friend to help him raise his girls. It was tough at times, but they always managed to pull through. Plus, Danny also managed to date AND keep a clean house. Ladies, if this type of man isn’t a keeper then it’s time to reassess your standards! Danny taught me that as a single parent it’s okay to reach out to family and friends and that asking for help does not mean you are weak.

Nick Russo, Blossom – Nick becomes a single father after his wife walked out on him to pursue her own career. Nick is left with three children and struggles to maintain his career as a musician. Perhaps the biggest challenge for Nick is being able to relate to his teenage daughter, Blossom. Blossom is experiencing things like getting her first period, dating and struggling to understand her parents’ divorce. In the earlier years, Nick remains single and as a result, deals with some of the harder gender issues that a mother would usually tend to with a daughter. Nick taught me that gender stereotypes are wrong and that fathers are very capable of raising daughters on their own and mothers are very capable of raising sons on their own. As long as your child is loved and supported then they will be fine.

Miranda Hobbes, Sex and the City – Miranda’s pregnancy comes as a surprise and she decides to keep her unplanned baby and raise him on her own. Her family doesn’t live close enough to offer much support and her friends have little to no experience with children. Miranda struggles to find the balance between work and home life. Finally, Miranda tells her boss that she can’t continue to work 70+ hours a week. She says that her work week will need to be scaled back if she’s going to continue with her employment. Her boss agrees and things start to get better at work and at home. Miranda eventually married her son’s father, but she taught me an important life lesson: Find balance.

Alan Harper, Two and a Half Men – Alan’s wife left him because she thought she was a lesbian. As if that wasn’t traumatizing enough, he got kicked out of the house and had nowhere to go. His brother took him in and Alan was able to live with him, rent free, because he had huge alimony and child support payments and could not afford housing on his own. Even though Alan is a Chiropractor, money is tight due to the payments he makes to his ex-wife every month. Because of this, Alan learns how to pinch pennies. He gets his hair cut at a barber school, he takes on a second job for a brief period, he uses coupons and he watches and waits for sales. At times Alan is over the top and comes off as being cheap, but most of the time I find him very practical with his money. Alan taught me how important it is to budget and plan and save where you can because those things are important for any single parent – doctor or otherwise!

Lorelai Gilmore, Gilmore Girls – Lorelai was faced with plenty of challenges very early on in life. She became pregnant at 16 and dropped out of high school and ran away from her home and wealthy parents.  Despite all of this, she shows a strong sense of determination and is able to get a job as a maid at an Inn and raise her daughter. Lorelai worked hard at her job and her perseverance paid off, as she eventually is promoted to the position of Executive Manager at the Inn. Lorelai takes great pride in raising her daughter and is a strong woman who never gives up. She is funny, creative and brings humour to everyday life. Lorelai (in my opinion) is an amazing single mom. She challenged the stereotype and overcame a lot of adversity. She taught me to be strong and believe in myself and to never give up.

I don’t want nearly as much TV now as I did when I was growing up and into my early 20s. I simply don’t have the time anymore; after all, I am a single mom with a lot of priorities and responsibilities to juggle!  However, I am extremely glad that I did get the opportunity to watch these shows and learn from these characters.  They have helped me to realize that being a single parent is tough, but manageable. And that I can do anything if I set my mind on it and never give up or back down. These characters all made their share of mistakes as they navigated the world of single parenting. Most of them just figured stuff out as time passed, which is really how a lot of us figure things out. I thought most of them set great examples and were able to help society see single parents in a different light.  They may have not been perfect parents all of the time, but then again, who is?